at this point in the game
there’s literally NO EXCUSE for you as a white person to go in POC’s inboxes demanding explanations about racism, cultural appropriation, identity, diaspora w/e no matter how benign you’re being or how genuinely you want to learn
the internet has been around long enough that this shit is archived, saved, linked, written up and readily available for you at the touch of a few keys
all it takes is some time and effort on your part
stop expecting POC and especially WOC to perform this labor for you
get with the program and educate yourself
and it’s also likely that poc have already written (multiple times) about what you’re asking them to explain.
so if people don’t want to indulge you, you can’t whinge about how they’re not helping you learn something that is easily researched and has practically been handed to you.
for many poc, no one taught them the words and terminology to describe their experiences, they had to learn on their own.